Should those women have been in the closet about their bisexuality then? Because that's what you seem to suggest.
After all, people do bring up their partners in completely normal, everyday work conversations. I am bisexual, so if I am to do the same as my straight coworkers — who I am guessing wouldn't make you uncomfortable by referrin…
Should those women have been in the closet about their bisexuality then? Because that's what you seem to suggest.
After all, people do bring up their partners in completely normal, everyday work conversations. I am bisexual, so if I am to do the same as my straight coworkers — who I am guessing wouldn't make you uncomfortable by referring to their straight relationships — I have to be open and explicit that I'm in a queer relationship. Or should people like me not be part of the conversation?
I think you and I have commented elsewhere on the inadvisability of bringing your "whole self" to work. I don't mean that anyone should hide having a same-sex partner, or multiple partners if polyamorous. I mean work conversations should be along the lines of "How's your family?" "Fine." After that, get back to work.
And actually to amend my first reply, that doesn't mean I think all workplaces should be sanitized, desensitized places. People should feel free to offer support ("I heard your wife is ill. I'm so sorry. If you'd like to talk about it, I'm here." etc.) Or friends at work could confine their personal sex life discussions to lunch out or whatever. There's a faction of people right now who are controlling the conversation about what's appropriate and what isn't. Not to say that that faction of people have historically been treated fairly or equally. But there we end up at the equity piece: if you've been treated unfairly in the past, you have license to extend your current purview of your rights, even if doing so infringes the rights or comforts of others.
I consciously amend my personality and speech patterns for work. Why the fuck would I bring my "whole self" or "true self" to SQL queries and PowerPoint presentations.
Should those women have been in the closet about their bisexuality then? Because that's what you seem to suggest.
After all, people do bring up their partners in completely normal, everyday work conversations. I am bisexual, so if I am to do the same as my straight coworkers — who I am guessing wouldn't make you uncomfortable by referring to their straight relationships — I have to be open and explicit that I'm in a queer relationship. Or should people like me not be part of the conversation?
Oh, that’s not what I said. Their bisexuality didn’t make me uncomfortable. Their open discussion of sexual acts and exploits made me uncomfortable.
I think you and I have commented elsewhere on the inadvisability of bringing your "whole self" to work. I don't mean that anyone should hide having a same-sex partner, or multiple partners if polyamorous. I mean work conversations should be along the lines of "How's your family?" "Fine." After that, get back to work.
And actually to amend my first reply, that doesn't mean I think all workplaces should be sanitized, desensitized places. People should feel free to offer support ("I heard your wife is ill. I'm so sorry. If you'd like to talk about it, I'm here." etc.) Or friends at work could confine their personal sex life discussions to lunch out or whatever. There's a faction of people right now who are controlling the conversation about what's appropriate and what isn't. Not to say that that faction of people have historically been treated fairly or equally. But there we end up at the equity piece: if you've been treated unfairly in the past, you have license to extend your current purview of your rights, even if doing so infringes the rights or comforts of others.
I consciously amend my personality and speech patterns for work. Why the fuck would I bring my "whole self" or "true self" to SQL queries and PowerPoint presentations.
Right. That is, I think, one of the consequences of current social justice politics: all boundaries are blurred.